It is hard to believe that it has been almost two years since my last original Plaid, Pearls and Toddler stains’ blog. Why the long hiatus you ask? Seriously, there is no great reason except I was a bit consumed with daily life.
I started 2018 off with being pregnant with our third kiddo. Unlike my first two pregnancies, I was SICK with this one. “Morning Sickness” controlled most of my day for the first two trimesters. Managing my stomach and two little ones running around the house was all I could handle.
Along with a new baby growing inside of me, I had taken on two new side jobs. One job was great for growing my writing skills. As you might have guessed, I love writing. The other allowed me to lead kids in learning and growing in the midst of the outdoors. I was passionate about both jobs.
Another passion I continued last year was volunteering at my church, Elevation Church. Being a leader in the 1st – 5th grade school aged group was a blessing. I truly believe in raising-up the next generation to the best of our abilities. I loved teaching them about kindness, empathy, teamwork, emotional and mental strength, and of course about Jesus’ love.
As if I didn’t have enough on my plate, I was homeschooling my 5 year old.
Baby number three came on September 20th, along with a whole new set of daily responsibilities.
I am not telling you all this to complain, vent, seek sympathy or pity. I am sharing this to show you that you are not alone. Everyone has years, months or days like this. Regular daily life just gets consuming and you need one thing. Grace.
No matter how badly we want to, we cannot do it all! I strongly believe there is a season for everything. For me, the last two years was a season of motherhood survival and realizing how to prioritize. After baby #3 arrived I quickly figured out I had to let certain responsibilities go and say no to things I normally wouldn’t. At the beginning of this year, I had to reevaluate my undertakings again. And once again I found myself needing to purge. This was hard because it attacked my pride. Why couldn’t I do it all?? I see other moms who seem to manage EVERYTHING.
In a world of perfect Instagram pictures, Pinterest worthy crafts and food, and #momboss, it is no surprise I felt this way. I know there are plenty of you reading this that can relate. Honestly, it took a whole lot of prayer and hearty discussions with trusted friends before I came to terms with my purging decisions.
So what’s left? What I am left with are the things I value, love and need the most right now. My kids have a mom that isn’t stressed with deadlines and yelling as much. My husband doesn’t hear me, as often ;-P, complain about not having time for what I Need to do. And I am left with a huge weight off of my shoulders, knowing that it is okay that I can’t do it all. I believe this past year was God’s way of guiding me to this revelation and proving that I need Him in everything I do.
I would love to hear from you. How are you lightening your load during this season? What do you value the most right now? Focus on that and build, or let go, from there. And if need be, take that year off from whatever it is for you. I look forward to hearing from you all.
Until next time (I promise it won’t be that long this time),
Plaid, Pearls & Toddler stains