For the most part the pictures I (and most of us) post of social media are the best of the best of our days. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. That is as long as we remember this fact as we view these happy photos.
I know I have in the past viewed these photos with the longing of something better or more like the lives of the people in said pictures. That is until I realized that I was posting these same type of pics and imagined there was someone out there seeing my pics and feeling the same way.
I am proud to say that I no longer think like this. Well unless you are posting pictures of being at the beach, then yea I am wishing I was also at the beach! But that’s beside the point. ;-P
If there are times I find I am reverting back to this type of negative thinking then I do one of these 5 things.
- I look back at one of my personal happy photos that make me feel the same way that this random person’s pic is making me feel. This helps remind me that I do have these same kinds of moments in my life too, even if it’s not right now.
- I like to think about how many pictures were taken to get this ONE perfect photo. I know I am not the only one that has to take (especially when kids are involved) a dozen pictures to get at least one “social media” worthy pic. For me, it is usually me trying to get a picture where I don’t look like the frazzled, tired, and imperfect mom that I am. Though I’m trying to do better here, by loving myself no matter what I may look like because I am proud of whom I am and the mom I am.
- I think about how the rest of their (the people in the photo) is going. For example, the photos I took for this picture collage were taken during a wonderful period of our day. Though this moment was fun and delightful, I vividly remember the argument I had with my toddler, after our picnic, about why he needed to take a nap. It was me trying to explain/reason with him (I know funny right, trying to reason with a toddler) and him continuously telling me “No sir Momma!”. UGH *++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
- I’m genuinely happy for the people in the picture! If I’m viewing this photo then I am most likely friends with them and we SHOULD be happy for our friends. Everyone (ourselves included) deserves many happy moments in their lives. In our typically mundane day-to-day lives, we live for these special (usually the ones we photograph) moments.
- I disconnect! I remind myself that to have real life moments I need to get off the computer, tablet and smart phone and go out and live life!
So to wrap up, I do want to sincerely thank you all for taking the time to read this post that truly came from my heart. But now I want you to cut off your device and Go! Go do something you love, play with the kids, talk to your partner, and just live life and not just watch other people doing that.
I’m off to go play with my toddler in the yard while dinner cooks on the grill. That sounds perfect doesn’t it? I don’t know if it will be perfect but I know it’ll be real living and I can’t wait to get to it!
Plaid, Pearls and Toddler stains